A lot of our theology is learned from the hymns we sing, a good reason to listen to the words of those songs, and if not theology, then words of experience for walking successfully with our Redeemer and the One who sent Him.
The other morning my wife and I were talking about marriages that are long lived, because of, one particular couple who are celebrating sixty-eight years, this year.
Well my wife sang a verse from an old hymn that some of us old grey hairs may not have sung in a while.
“Turn your eyes upon Jesus.
Look full in His wonderful face.
And the things of earth will grow strangely dim,
in the light of His glory and grace.”
This was a song written by Helen Howarth Lemmel in 1918 and was inspired by writing within a tract a friend of hers gave her entitled “Focused” and from the sound of that title one can imagine that “focus” is a requirement for success.
She (my wife) was of the mind that if those in a marriage keep their focus on one another and for whatever the reason they might, do not start looking around, then they won’t be tempted to stray. A favorite quote she uses from time to time is “Your heart don’t want, what your eyes don’t see.”
And when you keep your focus on one another with the full intention of loving one another, your mind enumerates and dwells on those things that you find good and beautiful and admirable about the other one. Your thoughts and plans and actions are made considering and including that other one, your focus upon your oneness. You are patiently true to one another and jealous for one another. You allow no room for intrusion or straying.
So then. How easy is that?
It’s easy…sometimes… and it’s hard…sometimes. For believers the new man is housed in the flesh and is influenced by it. But we have strength to overcome it if we keep focused and obedient, with a heart of love for our Father and a heart of love for one another.
Are we always successful? No.
But there is grace and forgiveness, truly, not for the purpose of permitting sin, but for the purpose of not being destroyed by it, if we turn away from it.
So concerning the subject of a “long” marriage, we who have…or haven’t accomplished this, in our love for those who are starting and in our certain assurance and trust in Your Word Oh God, we can say to the young ones:
“Drink the water from your own cistern,
fresh water from your own well….
…Let your fountain, the wife of your youth,
be blessed; find joy in her-
a lovely deer, a graceful fawn;
let her breasts satisfy you at all times,
always be infatuated with her love.” Proverbs 5:15,18-19 CJB.
Father, may we be true to one another in our marriages, for that matter Father, to be focused and faithful in all our dealings both with You and with one another.
In marriage Father, may we always look sharply and clearly in Your face and eyes, in the face and eyes of our beloved one, lovingly, jealous for, valuing and “protectingly”.
May You be glorified Our Father.
In Yeshua’s name we pray,
May God’s love be in us all.